When talking to friends or colleagues, how often do you hear stories of other peoples’ life dramas (“My friend’s brother had this roommate…”)? If the story is really engaging, we may be inclined to pass it on. Usually we don’t know the people involved and have no direct connection to the events being described. When this occurs, we help carry the energy of the drama in those people’s lives, and unnecessarily add weight to our own. Ask yourself, how do you feel after hearing such stories? Do you feel better or worse after sharing them with others? Is your energy heavier or lighter?
Wikipedia defines a diorama as “a partially three-dimensional, full-size replica or scale model of a landscape typically showing historical events, nature scenes or cityscapes, for purposes of education or entertainment.” When we hold and pass on the energy of other’s life situations, we create a Drama Diorama. Those situations are in essence none of our business, yet we repeat them in detail as if we were directly involved. Carrying the energy of others is exhausting. It can weigh us down and prevent us from moving forward in our lives.
Next time you hear someone else’s drama being shared, listen, empathize, then let it go. Choose not to take on this energy as your own. When a close friend tells you a personal story about themselves, respect their privacy and don’t pass it on. They will appreciate it, and you’ll be amazed at how much lighter you feel.